How to Get What You Want in Life – A Quick Plan For Your Future

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how to get what you want in life - couple on yacht enjoying the day

You want to transform your life…

You really want it. So much in fact, that you can’t stop thinking about it.

Yet, the more you think about what you want in life, the harder it seems to get hold of it.

What is it that you really want?

Deciding what you want sounds simple, but it isn’t.

Many people are overly busy and completely unfulfilled because they have not clearly mapped out what they want. They have been running on a treadmill going nowhere – fast.

Have you been:

  • ursuing jobs that you think could be the right fit?
  • Seeking relationships that you have not clearly figured out?
  • Going with the flow, allowing the breeze to take you where it wishes, following the herd?
  • Clear on what it is you want?

You cannot succeed in life if you go through daily motions, tackling unimportant tasks. If you do not identify specific goals that you want to achieve, you will end up going in circles. In the process, you will become uninspired, physically tired, spiritually drained, and far from where you should be.

Determining what you want in life takes a lot of contemplation and deep reflection. You will never get what you want until you can see your future with great clarity. It is a lot easier to get what you want when you know what it is.

How to get what you want?

Research indicates that the main reason why people are not where they want to be is that the human mind gives excuses, and many people accept them.

Once you have decided what you want, you must prioritize your goals and tasks over everything that can get in the way of your dreams.

Many people get fired up when they draw up their goals, but the fires are gone shortly after. Therefore, you must find what drives you to achieve your dreams. What do you want? Financial freedom? To live life on your terms? To not have anyone control your schedule? Use this as motivation to pursue what you want.

The brain is a goal-seeking organ. What you assign your unconscious mind, it will work day and night to achieve.

Focus on what you want

Pay attention to how you think about what you want. You must train your mind to think thoughts that are useful to your goal. Experts indicate that the human brain has over 70,000 thoughts every single day. However, many of these thoughts are negative, and they contribute significantly to sabotaging your success.

If you focus on being poor and never finding love, these are the thoughts that will dominate your mind. If you focus on happiness, success, and abundance, you will create mental pictures of things improving in your life. This will energize you and create the right environment for you to succeed in your actions.

The unconscious mind will allow you to have only what you believe you deserve. If you have a small view of yourself then what you deserve is poverty. And your unconscious will see to it that you get that actually….

Dr. David Hawkins

Believe you can get what you want

Before you can create anything in your life, you must first create it in your mind.

Scientists indicate that you respond to what your brain, based on your previous experiences, expects to happen next. Your mind is such a powerful instrument that can deliver literally everything that you want. However, you must believe that what you want is possible.

Possessing unwavering belief that you can achieve anything you want is an essential component of fulfilling your desires. Your conviction that you are destined to achieve something is a major determining factor in your ability to attain it.

How many times do you say, ‘I hope I can, and I might’ as opposed to, ‘I know I can, and, I will!’

You will find that many times, you doubt yourself. You live in a state of constant fear and anxiety, wondering if you will ever be good enough to fulfill your goals.

Instead of predicting what could go wrong and why you cannot do it, be your own gatekeeper. Trust yourself; have confidence and believe that you are connected to your higher power.

Invest in yourself

Part of attaining what you want is investing in yourself: developing rare and valuable skills.

When you invest in yourself, you will do incredible things. You must develop a craftsman’s mentality:  high quality skills and true mastery of what you do. When you develop valuable skills, it is then that you get yourself in a rare position to chart your own path.

So, start putting your efforts where your mouth is. A lot of time, money, and attention goes into developing mastery. Read books, take courses, pay for live mentoring. Eventually, you will effortlessly be able to work towards what you want.

Create an action plan

Achieving your goals requires you to take massive action on a consistent basis. Without a solid action plan, it becomes challenging to keep taking action on a daily basis and push through all the limitations that hold you back.

Think of an airplane, for instance. While the airplane has a goal: it knows where it is going, it must also have an action plan to get there. This is the flight plan. Without a flight plan, how would a pilot know how to get the airplane from point A to point B?

Create small milestones

The main reason why people give up on the pursuit of their goals is being too focused on the end game. For instance, setting out to create $20K of passive income a month and quit your job in the next four months may not be realistic if you are starting out.

If this is your only goal, you are likely to get frustrated quickly and give up. Why? Because, even if you are making progress, it is difficult to feel like you are since you don’t have milestones. Instead of focusing on one big lofty goal, create several little milestones so that four months from now, instead of seeing one unchecked box, you will have several checked ones.

Execute

Successful people do what unsuccessful people don’t want to do. Remind yourself this every day especially when you find yourself making excuses to not act on achieving your dreams and goals.

Execution also means that you have the discipline to forgo instant pleasure. It is easier to succumb to that one chocolate bar, it is tempting to press the snooze button instead of going for a jog; it will feel good to buy that gorgeous pair of shoes instead of saving the money – but only for an instant.

Deep down you know what is right. You must find your inner ability to get over yourself and your feelings and execute. When your drive to push through is intact, you will overcome every excuse; even the reason of not having enough time.

Magic is something you make

The possibilities of your life are endless. It is easy to carry the belief that your life is already mapped out of you. It is also easy to listen when other people tell you what you can and cannot do. The concept of gratefulness has been misused: the society wants you to settle for what you have and be grateful for it.

The truth, however, is that you should define what success means to you and go after it. You should not conform to the status quo. Think about what you want, not about what society wants you to have. There is only one you on this plant. Take advantage of that.

Establish what you want and go for it

There is only one person who is responsible for the quality of life you live, and that person is you.

You are responsible for your own happiness. The life you live is a result of your doing or not doing. If you want to achieve your dreams, you must take responsibility for the thoughts you think, the images you visualize and the actions you take.

Do not waste time and energy complaining and blaming. It is about you. Take 100% responsibility of achieving what you want.

How to Change Your Life in 7 Days – A 7 Day Success Habit Setting Guide

A New Day a New Start in Your Life - How to Change Your Life in 7 Days

A New Day a New Start in Your Life - How to Change Your Life in 7 Days

CAN  YOU CHANGE YOUR life in seven days? Absolutely! Many of us can point a time when our lives changed instantly.

Maybe we had a child or a new addition to the family, moved into a new home, started a new job, bought a new car or we made a monumental decision that transformed our lives.

How Much of A Difference Can You Make?

You see, the changes that impact our lives the most are changes in the way we see the world. Not changes in the world itself. And we can change the way we perceive the world in an instant.

Sometimes even a small change can make a massive difference. The world leading hypnotist Paul McKenna gives the following illustration:

“Imagine you and a friend are walking along two parallel, straight roads, stretching side by side into the infinite distance. Now, imagine that at some point the roads shift from each other just a tiny bit. At first, the difference is not even noticeable. However, over time, that small change in direction will take the two of you to completely different destinations.”

If you commit to making tiny changes every day, over a period, you will be surprised at how far you have come and just how much you have changed. When you dedicate yourself to small actions, they will set a wave of change in many areas of your life.

An oil tanker takes a little while to start moving, but it becomes difficult to stop once it builds up sufficient momentum.

Allow me to give you one more illustration.

For many centuries, it was believed that it was not possible to run a four-minute mile. In fact, some scientists had indicated that the human body would explode if it were subjected to a four-minute mile!

On 6th of March 1954, Roger Bannister did the impossible. He ran the four-minute mile! All of a sudden, what had been thought impossible for centuries was now possible:

  • The following year, thirty seven people ran the four-minute mile.
  • The year after that, an incredible 300 athletes hit the once impossible four-minute mile.

Whatever the human mind believes, it generalizes as a principle. You can reprogram your mind to make you a happier, more confident and productive person.

What Do You Want to Change?

You will never change your life until you change something you do daily. Mike Murdock.

There are many aspects of our lives that we may not like: Some of us are overweight while others are broke, many are unhappy and would love nothing more than to meet their soulmate. Some of us could be feeling stuck in unfulfilling relationships; jobs that we no longer enjoy; positions that no longer inspire us.

Many of us would love to change our lives: lose weight, move cities, travel the world, go back to school, fall in love, stop procrastination, get a promotion, write a book. Save money……

What are the changes you would want to see in your life?

The Powerful Strategy of New Habits

You can bring all the changes you want in your life by incorporating new habits. A study by Duke University revealed that habits form about 45 percent of our total behavior. Habits are the foundation of our lives, and if the foundation is weak, we will never be happy. The reason we fail often times is because we try to do too much at once.

How to Change Your Life in Seven Days

If we want to make massive changes in any area of our lives, we should start by choosing the change that we desire. Then, we must shrink this change into small habits. After that, we only need to start and watch good things happening in our lives.

Here is a sample plan of how you can change your life in seven days

Monday: Positive thinking

What consumes your mind controls your life.

Life could be so much better for many of us if only we would replace our negative thoughts with positive ones:

  • I am a miserable failure
  • Why do these things always happen to me?
  • I can never do anything right: why can’t I be like X?
  • I don’t think I can do this.
  • Will I ever be successful?

When we think positively, we experience a pleasant feeling. When we are happy we feel more powerful, and the universe responds by bringing pleasant and powerful things our way.

Actions:

  • Commit to two positive thoughts every day.
  • Name three things you are thankful for every day.

Tuesday: Fitness

Work out, for a healthy body holds a healthy mind.

According to CDC, regular physical exercise boosts our thinking, learning and judgment skills. Indeed, exercise will help preserve these skills as we age. It will also reduce the risk of depression.

Actions:

  • Commit to walking 10 minutes every day.
  • Do ten jumping jacks every day.

Wednesday: Self-growth

The greatest solution to all human problems is individual inner transformation.              Vernon Howard

We are at an exciting time in history with a world that is transforming every day. Things that were unthinkable 50 years ago are now a reality. To keep up with this profoundly transformative life, we must also seek to grow and keep improving ourselves. Transformation must not only happen in our environments but also in our inner resources. Personal development is crucial to your success.

Actions:

  • Commit to meditating for ten minutes every day.
  • Read two pages of an inspiring book every day.

Thursday: Financial growth

Whoever said money could not buy happiness simply did not know where to go shopping. – Bo Derek

We all want financial independence, and this an excellent desire. Money gives us choices and personal power. It helps us to attract new opportunities in our lives. When we have money, we can survive more, share more of ourselves and inspire more.

Actions:

  • Start cooking and eating at home
  • Take the train to work instead of driving
  • Commit to starting a side hustle

Friday: Stop procrastinating

Procrastination is hands down our favorite form of self-sabotage.  – Alyce P. Corryn

Procrastination is very literally the opposite of productivity. We are always tempted to put off things that are involving, unpleasant, difficult or painful. Unfortunately, essential tasks will always be characterized by one or more of the above attributes. Procrastination can literally cripple our lives.

Actions:

  • Set the most import task each morning and work on it for 20 minutes.

Saturday: Find your soul mate

The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved; loved for ourselves or rather, loved in spite of ourselves. – Victor Hugo

There is nothing as electrifying as falling in love. Romantic relationships enrich our lives with friendships, courtship and love. We can confide in our romantic partners and share our problems with them. We can be comforted and receive and give unconditional friendship. How fulfilling it is to be part of something that is bigger than ourselves!

Actions:

  • Go somewhere each day and meet new people.
  • Do something daily that will make you a fascinating person.

Sunday: Diet

Take care of your body. It is the only place you have to live in.

According to CDC, carrying around too much weight is not only uncomfortable and but also damaging to our health. Being fit is also beyond being a certain size or looking great in a particular type of clothing. Research shows that there is a positive correlation between your health and mental success. Being physically fit ensures you have more energy to pursue your goals.

Also, the healthier you are, the more gracefully you age.

Actions:

  • Eat two healthy meals per day.
  • Switch from drinking soda to drinking water
  • Drink two glasses of water when you wake up and a glass every time you take a break.

Give Yourself A Pat on the Back

You can change nearly any area of your life, one habit at a time. Incorporating small habits and routines will significantly enhance your life.

Every habit is like a seed; the small daily acts plant positive suggestions in your mind that will eventually grow into powerful new ways of living. Dedicate this week to transforming your life, one little habit at a time.

What new daily habits will you start today?

A year from now you will wish you had started today. Karen Lamb  

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