The 4 Rules Successful Entrepreneurs & Business Owners Use To Stick With Their Personal Long Term Goals

Person hiking across snow analagy for sticking with personal long term goals

Person hiking across snow analagy for sticking with personal long term goals

THE NATURE OF LIFE IS THAT we live short-term and work towards long-term.

Unfortunately, the short-term is full of obstacles that steal our focus from the long-term. Goals help us to maneuver past the short-term challenges. Goals are essential because they provide a long-term vision for our lives.

Long-term is just a series of short terms

Most successful people confess that they have learned to leverage the power of goal setting. In a world full of distractions and a myriad of issues that compete for our attention, goals help us to silence the background noise and fix our eyes on the big picture. Here are some long-term personal goals that successful people value.

People hiking across mountain - analogy for sticking together helps with personal long term goals

Rule number one: Always surround yourself with the right people

Staying steady in the chase of your dreams demands for moral and psychological stamina. It calls for skills and resources that no single person possesses. Therefore, in the pursuit of personal success, you will need people to help you prevail over obstacles. Keep in touch with family, friends and successful people who can encourage and support you.

These relationships will not only keep you balanced, but they might also open up some exciting opportunities. As you socialize; you also network.

Many successful people value friendships and partnerships. Here are a few famous ones to help get the point across…

  • Bill Hewlett and Dave Packard – HP
  • Sergey Brin, and Larry Page – Google
  • Bill Gates and Paul Allen – Microsoft

Not only is being in business with the right people important, it is also important to surround your personal life with the right people. And if they are the right people, then make time and give attention to them.

Here are some pointers before we jump to the next topic…

  • As you set your long-term goals, factor in time for family events.
  • Always make a point of connecting with like-minded individuals.
  • Join virtual communities and meet up groups to help meet likeminded people.
  • Plug into business associations around you.

Rule number two: Mind your health

Research shows that there is a positive correlation between good health and productivity. Many successful people know that they need to take care of themselves. Self-care is a way of life.

There’s nothing more important than our good health: that is our principal capital asset.     Arlen Specter

All successful people keep extremely busy schedules but almost all of them also exercise, even hiring personal trainers. Your health is the most important single thing you have, and it is entirely dependent on your daily habits.

  • Working out even for a few minutes will take the edge off a busy day and energize you.
  • Have some few moments of introspection and meditation each day. Annie Lawless, a New York Times bestseller, says that a few minutes of meditation in the morning help her plan her day and sharpen her focus.

In the moment of solitude, we find the most significant moments of creativity

  • Make your alternative passions a priority. This will help to clear your mind and decompress. Many successful people indicate that they have solved some of their toughest problems swimming or when out on a run.
  • Loosen and have a good laugh every day. Robby Sorensen, the CEO of Finger Puppets Inc., indicates that we can handle anything if only we can find a way to laugh aloud every day.
  • Be kind to yourself: stop judging, blaming or expecting too much from yourself. You are only human. All you can do is all you can do, and all you can do is enough!
  • Forgive yourself every day. Do not hold on to the mistakes of the past; they do not shape your future.
  • Watch your diet and eat the right proportions.

Take care of your body. It is the only place you have to live in. – Jim Rohn

Rule number three: spend time sharing yourself

It is in giving that we receive – Francis of Assisi.

Many entrepreneurs and other successful people are generous with their money and time. The more you give, the more you get in return. Adam Grant, a New York Times and Wall Street Journal bestseller, ‘Give and Take’, indicates that people who give achieve extraordinary results across industries.

There is no exercise better for the heart than reaching down and lifting people up – John Holmes

Fun fact: In a study, givers scored 12% higher in the intelligent test than other people.

Look at the list of 20 most generous people in the world, topped by Bill Gates, Warren Buffet, George Soros, Azim Premji, and Charles Francis Feeney. What do these people have in common? If this does not motivate you to be generous, nothing will.

Rule number four: Take risks

Successful people despise the comfort zone. Life will become boring and lack fulfillment if you stay in one place, mentally and physically. Taking risks teaches you to become adaptive and grow in countless ways.

Ditch your comfort zone and do something that you have always desired to do:

  • Leave your job
  • Enter a new field
  • Start a new business
  • End an unfulfilling relationship

You must learn to harness your confidence and believe in your abilities. This is the fuel you need to achieve things that you did not think were possible.

I like thinking big. If you are going to be thinking anything, you might as well think big.    Donald Trump

There is no goal that we will ever achieve without taking a risk. The most successful people are not afraid to try new things and take risks. Not taking risk is a risk in itself!

Raaji Nemani CEO and co-founder of BucketFeet says that if he had not left his comfort zone, he would never have met his partner and the company would never exist. While risks do not always work out, they will pay off with a lesson. But when they do, you will be forever grateful that you faced the fear.

  • Musicians record and release songs without knowing how they will be received.
  • Producers invest massive amounts of money to produce movies without any assurance that they will be a success
  • Entrepreneurs start businesses without an end in sight.
  • We turn our lives inside out to get married armed only with the hope that it will all work out
  • We conceive and carry pregnancies for nine months without truly knowing what it is we carry

You sometimes have to take big risks – Bill Gates

The final goal

We can learn from wolves how to howl, from the eagle we will learn how to fly, and from highly successful people we can learn which long-term goals are essential in our lives.

Many of our idols were not born successful. They started by setting goals and pursuing them relentlessly. Being successful does not happen overnight, we can all start small, set essential long-term goals and more towards a fulfilling life.

Thanks for reading this article on how to stick with your personal long term goals. If you want more help sticking with your goals then here is an article on affirmations, which can help keep you motivated.

How to Change Your Life in 7 Days – A 7 Day Success Habit Setting Guide

A New Day a New Start in Your Life - How to Change Your Life in 7 Days

A New Day a New Start in Your Life - How to Change Your Life in 7 Days

CAN  YOU CHANGE YOUR life in seven days? Absolutely! Many of us can point a time when our lives changed instantly.

Maybe we had a child or a new addition to the family, moved into a new home, started a new job, bought a new car or we made a monumental decision that transformed our lives.

How Much of A Difference Can You Make?

You see, the changes that impact our lives the most are changes in the way we see the world. Not changes in the world itself. And we can change the way we perceive the world in an instant.

Sometimes even a small change can make a massive difference. The world leading hypnotist Paul McKenna gives the following illustration:

“Imagine you and a friend are walking along two parallel, straight roads, stretching side by side into the infinite distance. Now, imagine that at some point the roads shift from each other just a tiny bit. At first, the difference is not even noticeable. However, over time, that small change in direction will take the two of you to completely different destinations.”

If you commit to making tiny changes every day, over a period, you will be surprised at how far you have come and just how much you have changed. When you dedicate yourself to small actions, they will set a wave of change in many areas of your life.

An oil tanker takes a little while to start moving, but it becomes difficult to stop once it builds up sufficient momentum.

Allow me to give you one more illustration.

For many centuries, it was believed that it was not possible to run a four-minute mile. In fact, some scientists had indicated that the human body would explode if it were subjected to a four-minute mile!

On 6th of March 1954, Roger Bannister did the impossible. He ran the four-minute mile! All of a sudden, what had been thought impossible for centuries was now possible:

  • The following year, thirty seven people ran the four-minute mile.
  • The year after that, an incredible 300 athletes hit the once impossible four-minute mile.

Whatever the human mind believes, it generalizes as a principle. You can reprogram your mind to make you a happier, more confident and productive person.

What Do You Want to Change?

You will never change your life until you change something you do daily. Mike Murdock.

There are many aspects of our lives that we may not like: Some of us are overweight while others are broke, many are unhappy and would love nothing more than to meet their soulmate. Some of us could be feeling stuck in unfulfilling relationships; jobs that we no longer enjoy; positions that no longer inspire us.

Many of us would love to change our lives: lose weight, move cities, travel the world, go back to school, fall in love, stop procrastination, get a promotion, write a book. Save money……

What are the changes you would want to see in your life?

The Powerful Strategy of New Habits

You can bring all the changes you want in your life by incorporating new habits. A study by Duke University revealed that habits form about 45 percent of our total behavior. Habits are the foundation of our lives, and if the foundation is weak, we will never be happy. The reason we fail often times is because we try to do too much at once.

How to Change Your Life in Seven Days

If we want to make massive changes in any area of our lives, we should start by choosing the change that we desire. Then, we must shrink this change into small habits. After that, we only need to start and watch good things happening in our lives.

Here is a sample plan of how you can change your life in seven days

Monday: Positive thinking

What consumes your mind controls your life.

Life could be so much better for many of us if only we would replace our negative thoughts with positive ones:

  • I am a miserable failure
  • Why do these things always happen to me?
  • I can never do anything right: why can’t I be like X?
  • I don’t think I can do this.
  • Will I ever be successful?

When we think positively, we experience a pleasant feeling. When we are happy we feel more powerful, and the universe responds by bringing pleasant and powerful things our way.

Actions:

  • Commit to two positive thoughts every day.
  • Name three things you are thankful for every day.

Tuesday: Fitness

Work out, for a healthy body holds a healthy mind.

According to CDC, regular physical exercise boosts our thinking, learning and judgment skills. Indeed, exercise will help preserve these skills as we age. It will also reduce the risk of depression.

Actions:

  • Commit to walking 10 minutes every day.
  • Do ten jumping jacks every day.

Wednesday: Self-growth

The greatest solution to all human problems is individual inner transformation.              Vernon Howard

We are at an exciting time in history with a world that is transforming every day. Things that were unthinkable 50 years ago are now a reality. To keep up with this profoundly transformative life, we must also seek to grow and keep improving ourselves. Transformation must not only happen in our environments but also in our inner resources. Personal development is crucial to your success.

Actions:

  • Commit to meditating for ten minutes every day.
  • Read two pages of an inspiring book every day.

Thursday: Financial growth

Whoever said money could not buy happiness simply did not know where to go shopping. – Bo Derek

We all want financial independence, and this an excellent desire. Money gives us choices and personal power. It helps us to attract new opportunities in our lives. When we have money, we can survive more, share more of ourselves and inspire more.

Actions:

  • Start cooking and eating at home
  • Take the train to work instead of driving
  • Commit to starting a side hustle

Friday: Stop procrastinating

Procrastination is hands down our favorite form of self-sabotage.  – Alyce P. Corryn

Procrastination is very literally the opposite of productivity. We are always tempted to put off things that are involving, unpleasant, difficult or painful. Unfortunately, essential tasks will always be characterized by one or more of the above attributes. Procrastination can literally cripple our lives.

Actions:

  • Set the most import task each morning and work on it for 20 minutes.

Saturday: Find your soul mate

The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved; loved for ourselves or rather, loved in spite of ourselves. – Victor Hugo

There is nothing as electrifying as falling in love. Romantic relationships enrich our lives with friendships, courtship and love. We can confide in our romantic partners and share our problems with them. We can be comforted and receive and give unconditional friendship. How fulfilling it is to be part of something that is bigger than ourselves!

Actions:

  • Go somewhere each day and meet new people.
  • Do something daily that will make you a fascinating person.

Sunday: Diet

Take care of your body. It is the only place you have to live in.

According to CDC, carrying around too much weight is not only uncomfortable and but also damaging to our health. Being fit is also beyond being a certain size or looking great in a particular type of clothing. Research shows that there is a positive correlation between your health and mental success. Being physically fit ensures you have more energy to pursue your goals.

Also, the healthier you are, the more gracefully you age.

Actions:

  • Eat two healthy meals per day.
  • Switch from drinking soda to drinking water
  • Drink two glasses of water when you wake up and a glass every time you take a break.

Give Yourself A Pat on the Back

You can change nearly any area of your life, one habit at a time. Incorporating small habits and routines will significantly enhance your life.

Every habit is like a seed; the small daily acts plant positive suggestions in your mind that will eventually grow into powerful new ways of living. Dedicate this week to transforming your life, one little habit at a time.

What new daily habits will you start today?

A year from now you will wish you had started today. Karen Lamb  

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How to Write a Letter of Affirmation: The Only Love Letter You’ll Ever Need

Woman writing a letter of affirmation whilst riding on a train

Woman writing a letter of affirmation whilst riding on a train

THINK ABOUT IT: so much of what we see and hear about ourselves and our lives comes from other people – and this starts from an early age.

During your schooling years, you would have been sent home with a report card at the end of each term detailing exactly what you could and couldn’t do in each subject. And even if you graduated a long time ago and are currently working – you may feel like nothing’s really changed. The only thing is, it’s your employer assessing your performance – not your teacher!

Then there are TV ads and Instagram posts showing off models driving top-of-the-line cars, and wearing nothing but designer threads (or just nothing!).

What does this mean? It means that consciously and subconsciously it is very easy to absorb the message that you are not good enough. That what you have is not good enough. Don’t get me wrong it’s perfectly OK to dream of having more of something (or less!) – but these dreams need to be your own.

They need to be born in YOUR mind, not from someone else’s Instagram account. You should never feel less than because someone else has a bigger house than yours. In fact, you should never feel less than FULL STOP.

How do you gain some distance from ALL the opinions? And how do you realize your self-worth when the world seems so eager to bring you down at every turn?

Two words: affirmation letter.

Woman writing a letter of affirmation at sunset

What Exactly is a Letter of Affirmation?

An affirmation letter is essentially a detailed love letter to yourself.

The idea is to write down what you like about yourself, things that you are good at, and your personal goals and dreams – and then, of course, read it! It helps you to:

  • Focus on all the things that are good about you
  • Drown out other people’s negative voices (and your inner negative voice too!)
  • Improve your self-esteem
  • Build your self-confidence
  • Encourage positive thinking
  • Clearly define your goals and dreams
  • Focus on your positive traits
  • Look at the brighter side of life

Once you’ve written your letter, you should re-read it any time you are experiencing hardship, or feel overwhelmed. And to heighten the experience, you can record yourself reading your letter and play it back three or four times a week. In this way, you are hearing positive things about yourself AS WELL as reading them.

How to write a letter of affirmation – a 5-step guide.

  1. Start by addressing the letter to yourself. If your name is Mary, you should literally write ‘Dear Mary’.
  2. In the first paragraph list the things you like and admire about yourself. Maybe you have a quirky dress sense that you pride yourself on. Or maybe you helped a co-worker out with their workload the other day. Perhaps you gave a homeless person some money? Or you have a great sense of humor? It doesn’t matter what it is, if it makes you feel good about who you are as a person, write it down.
  3. Outline any current challenges in your life right now. Are you unhappy in your relationship? Do you wish to lose or gain weight? Or is the stress of job hunting getting you down? The key here is to state any challenges in a confident tone that implies you WILL overcome them.
  4. State any specific plans you have to overcome your current challenges. The point of this paragraph is to determine your immediate next steps. But if you haven’t made any specific plans yet, you can still list the traits and attributes that will help you overcome your obstacles.
  5. Outline your long-term dreams and goals. But instead of saying “My aim is to retire by the time I’m 40 and live in Mexico,” say it like there is no doubt in your mind that you WILL achieve it: “By the age of 41 I will be retired and living in a little hut in Tulum, Mexico.”
  6. Conclude your letter with what you want your lasting legacy to be. What do you want to be remembered for? Say it in such a way that it WILL happen: “I will be remembered for my infectious laugh, sense of humor, and kindness.”

Example of a Letter of Affirmation

If you don’t really like writing, or have writer’s block, the example below can help you. Though this is a specific example, certain phrases in the letter can be directly copied and pasted into yours, or you can simply use this letter as a loose guide to help you structure yours.

 

Dear Mary,

You know what I love about you? I love the way you really listen. You always give people space to tell you their story – and you never interrupt. Around you, people feel heard and cared for. The other day you helped a mum get her baby and pram onto the train before it took off – you are so incredibly kind and compassionate.

Mary, right now you’re experiencing some issues at work. You feel undervalued and overworked. You’ve tried talking to your superiors, but they have not been as accommodating as you would have liked – and this has created a negative dynamic at work.

You’re going through a difficult time and don’t know what to do. Will you stay in this workplace until your retirement, which is only eight years away? And try to focus on the very few good aspects of your job? Or should you invest significant time and energy into finding a new job for yourself?

It’s a difficult decision. But you need to know something: you are the most organized person EVER, you’re an extremely hard worker, you are a damn good person – and any employer would be lucky to have you. You ARE worthy of a better job – there’s no doubt about it. But if you were to stay in your current one, that would be OK too. Staying is NOT a sign of failure. In fact, whether you stay or go: it’s a sign of strength. Because neither of your two options is easy. Either way: you will survive. You will find happiness again, and you will find a way to enjoy these last 8 years of employment. Because that’s just who you are: a person who gets it done.

You know what the best part is? No matter if you stay in this job or find a new one, you WILL reach your goal of saving enough for your retirement and you WILL remain known as a strong, brave, and caring woman. So go easy on yourself with this decision – it may seem like it’s the be all and end all – but no matter what you choose, you will be OK. Because I believe in you.

Love you always,

Mary.

The Take Home Message

It truly doesn’t matter how long or short the letter is, how well you’ve written it (you do not need to be a professional writer!), or how insignificant you think your problems are (spoiler alert: if something is making you unhappy, it’s not insignificant). It simply matters that you:

The rest is up to you. This is probably the first time you’ll be telling yourself how amazing you are. Maybe it’s even the fist time you’ll ‘speak’ nicely to yourself – so have fun with it. You deserve this! And more importantly, you need it. Good luck.