How to Get What You Want in Life – A Quick Plan For Your Future

how to get what you want in life - couple on yacht enjoying the day
how to get what you want in life - couple on yacht enjoying the day

You want to transform your life…

You really want it. So much in fact, that you can’t stop thinking about it.

Yet, the more you think about what you want in life, the harder it seems to get hold of it.

What is it that you really want?

Deciding what you want sounds simple, but it isn’t.

Many people are overly busy and completely unfulfilled because they have not clearly mapped out what they want. They have been running on a treadmill going nowhere – fast.

Have you been:

  • ursuing jobs that you think could be the right fit?
  • Seeking relationships that you have not clearly figured out?
  • Going with the flow, allowing the breeze to take you where it wishes, following the herd?
  • Clear on what it is you want?

You cannot succeed in life if you go through daily motions, tackling unimportant tasks. If you do not identify specific goals that you want to achieve, you will end up going in circles. In the process, you will become uninspired, physically tired, spiritually drained, and far from where you should be.

Determining what you want in life takes a lot of contemplation and deep reflection. You will never get what you want until you can see your future with great clarity. It is a lot easier to get what you want when you know what it is.

How to get what you want?

Research indicates that the main reason why people are not where they want to be is that the human mind gives excuses, and many people accept them.

Once you have decided what you want, you must prioritize your goals and tasks over everything that can get in the way of your dreams.

Many people get fired up when they draw up their goals, but the fires are gone shortly after. Therefore, you must find what drives you to achieve your dreams. What do you want? Financial freedom? To live life on your terms? To not have anyone control your schedule? Use this as motivation to pursue what you want.

The brain is a goal-seeking organ. What you assign your unconscious mind, it will work day and night to achieve.

Focus on what you want

Pay attention to how you think about what you want. You must train your mind to think thoughts that are useful to your goal. Experts indicate that the human brain has over 70,000 thoughts every single day. However, many of these thoughts are negative, and they contribute significantly to sabotaging your success.

If you focus on being poor and never finding love, these are the thoughts that will dominate your mind. If you focus on happiness, success, and abundance, you will create mental pictures of things improving in your life. This will energize you and create the right environment for you to succeed in your actions.

The unconscious mind will allow you to have only what you believe you deserve. If you have a small view of yourself then what you deserve is poverty. And your unconscious will see to it that you get that actually….

Dr. David Hawkins

Believe you can get what you want

Before you can create anything in your life, you must first create it in your mind.

Scientists indicate that you respond to what your brain, based on your previous experiences, expects to happen next. Your mind is such a powerful instrument that can deliver literally everything that you want. However, you must believe that what you want is possible.

Possessing unwavering belief that you can achieve anything you want is an essential component of fulfilling your desires. Your conviction that you are destined to achieve something is a major determining factor in your ability to attain it.

How many times do you say, ‘I hope I can, and I might’ as opposed to, ‘I know I can, and, I will!’

You will find that many times, you doubt yourself. You live in a state of constant fear and anxiety, wondering if you will ever be good enough to fulfill your goals.

Instead of predicting what could go wrong and why you cannot do it, be your own gatekeeper. Trust yourself; have confidence and believe that you are connected to your higher power.

Invest in yourself

Part of attaining what you want is investing in yourself: developing rare and valuable skills.

When you invest in yourself, you will do incredible things. You must develop a craftsman’s mentality:  high quality skills and true mastery of what you do. When you develop valuable skills, it is then that you get yourself in a rare position to chart your own path.

So, start putting your efforts where your mouth is. A lot of time, money, and attention goes into developing mastery. Read books, take courses, pay for live mentoring. Eventually, you will effortlessly be able to work towards what you want.

Create an action plan

Achieving your goals requires you to take massive action on a consistent basis. Without a solid action plan, it becomes challenging to keep taking action on a daily basis and push through all the limitations that hold you back.

Think of an airplane, for instance. While the airplane has a goal: it knows where it is going, it must also have an action plan to get there. This is the flight plan. Without a flight plan, how would a pilot know how to get the airplane from point A to point B?

Create small milestones

The main reason why people give up on the pursuit of their goals is being too focused on the end game. For instance, setting out to create $20K of passive income a month and quit your job in the next four months may not be realistic if you are starting out.

If this is your only goal, you are likely to get frustrated quickly and give up. Why? Because, even if you are making progress, it is difficult to feel like you are since you don’t have milestones. Instead of focusing on one big lofty goal, create several little milestones so that four months from now, instead of seeing one unchecked box, you will have several checked ones.


Successful people do what unsuccessful people don’t want to do. Remind yourself this every day especially when you find yourself making excuses to not act on achieving your dreams and goals.

Execution also means that you have the discipline to forgo instant pleasure. It is easier to succumb to that one chocolate bar, it is tempting to press the snooze button instead of going for a jog; it will feel good to buy that gorgeous pair of shoes instead of saving the money – but only for an instant.

Deep down you know what is right. You must find your inner ability to get over yourself and your feelings and execute. When your drive to push through is intact, you will overcome every excuse; even the reason of not having enough time.

Magic is something you make

The possibilities of your life are endless. It is easy to carry the belief that your life is already mapped out of you. It is also easy to listen when other people tell you what you can and cannot do. The concept of gratefulness has been misused: the society wants you to settle for what you have and be grateful for it.

The truth, however, is that you should define what success means to you and go after it. You should not conform to the status quo. Think about what you want, not about what society wants you to have. There is only one you on this plant. Take advantage of that.

Establish what you want and go for it

There is only one person who is responsible for the quality of life you live, and that person is you.

You are responsible for your own happiness. The life you live is a result of your doing or not doing. If you want to achieve your dreams, you must take responsibility for the thoughts you think, the images you visualize and the actions you take.

Do not waste time and energy complaining and blaming. It is about you. Take 100% responsibility of achieving what you want.